Breakups are not fun (to say the least). You may feel relief, shame, guilt, fear, anxiety, and have thoughts of “not being good enough” and “why didn’t it work?” Depending on the circumstance, your loved ones may have a lot to say. Some of them may be glad because they didn’t like the person, others may truly not understand, and still others may contribute to the…
Most people don’t want to talk about it. Maybe that’s why we should, right? It’s been on my topic list. Plus, the topic keeps coming up with clients, in the books I’m reading, or let’s face it, in life. We’ve all heard about someone passing away recently especially with the pandemic and everything that’s happening in the world.Death is one thing apart from change, that we,…
In the beginning of the year, I wrote about Happiness: 5 proven ways to be happier in 2021, prompted by a reader who like myself sought insight on living happily. (Feel free to go back and read that article.) The premise was that we don't have to wait for something monumental to happen before we experience happiness. Although we are still in this semi-transitional place of…
It is inevitable that we hurt others intentionally or unintentionally. This is part of our fallen humanity. Life is not perfect, and neither are we. I have been in different situations where I have commented or acted in a way that has offended someone. It is hard to hear when someone approaches you with, “when you said…” or “when you did… I didn’t like it.” However,…
Last week, I wrote about church hurts, why they cause so much pain and how to correct our understanding of church. I promised to write about steps for forgiveness, but this post morphed into something else and it's absolutely worth the read!When someone has wronged us, it is not our first instinct to think about forgiveness. Our first response is usually anger or thoughts associated with…
If you’ve been a part of a church or any group, you’ve probably experienced hurt. Many of us have been there. Either someone has said or done something that was hurtful, has misunderstood or judged you, or has made you feel unwelcome. One of the saddest things about “church hurt” is that it is very common for us to generalize one or two people’s wrongdoings to…
Do you struggle to fall asleep at night? Do you wake up in the middle of the night tossing and turning for hours unable to fall back asleep? Then, when you finally fall asleep, your alarm rings because it’s time to start your day? That’s annoying! It can feel like a waste of your night. You have to wake up and function for the whole day…
Shutting off the brain is difficult especially for anyone trying to accomplish goals, care for others, and maintain healthy relationships. There are always task lists roaming around in our minds. First off, you might want to thank your brain for helping you to constantly problem-solve; it keeps you creative and able to produce a lot of valuable things. However, sometimes we need to tell it to…
Happy Women’s Month ladies!!! Women are just incredible, aren’t they? Our bodies, our emotions, our minds, our ways, our beauty, our being. God made us beautifully.But as women, we frequently struggle with our self-image. We may feel not skinny enough, fit enough, voluptuous enough, tall enough, short enough, smart enough, quiet enough, gentle enough, talkative enough, light-skinned enough, dark enough, pretty enough, the list goes on.…
Mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is more common and also more hard to bear. The frequent attempt to conceal mental pain increases the burden: It is easier to say, ‘My tooth is aching’ than to say, ‘My heart is broken.’ —C.S. LewisDepression is marked by sadness, emptiness, and/or irritable mood. You lose the pleasure you once felt in doing things you…