How to be a good godparent
Have you ever wondered why we use the term “godmother?” And what exactly does the role entail? Has someone ever pulled a godparent aside and said, “Ok as a godparent, this is what the role demands from you?” If they did that for you, that’s great. I just never hear anyone doing it. Instead, there […]
It’s Black History Month, discover a new Black author, ME!
THE WAIT IS OVER! Not Far From the Truth is available now. Click here to see where you can get a copy! If you have been a reader of this blog, this book is for you. Here is what you will find on the back of the book: What matters most is not if we […]
Why knowing yourself is important to be known by others
We live in a time where there is so much talk about self-love and self-care. Both good things if we do them right. But before we get to either of those, we need self-knowledge. In other words, we need information regarding our tendencies, personality traits, emotional states, and patterns of behavior. Do you know that […]
The silent sufferer
Happy almost 4th of July! It looks like July 4th weekend is easily becoming my poetry weekend. At this time 2 years ago, I wrote a poem about rest. This time, it’s about suffering in silence. We’ve all experienced some sort of hardships in our lives. Sometimes it can be difficult to talk to others […]
Why are boundaries so hard for people from African cultures?
This is the story: Susan (let’s call her that) has been complaining about not wanting to go to this event, but not only that, she has been tasked with making the fried plantains for the event. But she doesn’t want to do any of it. What’s the event? It’s a party that some fellow members […]
“I don’t want to go, but I feel bad”
The holidays are coming up. You might be feeling excitement, anxiety, dread, or a combination of all three. (Read these stress management tips I wrote). You might be asking, “Do I really have to go for that family event?” “Do I really have to travel this holiday season?” Maybe you feel a little pressure or an […]
The truth no one tells you about break-ups
Breakups are not fun (to say the least). You may feel relief, shame, guilt, fear, anxiety, and have thoughts of “not being good enough” and “why didn’t it work?” Depending on the circumstance, your loved ones may have a lot to say. Some of them may be glad because they didn’t like the person, others […]
Why can’t I stop doing the things I hate?
Knowledge does not equal behavior change. If it did, the world wouldn’t be in so much chaos (and I would be out of a job). But why doesn’t knowing directly lead to change? Because of our defenses and automatic responses developed from our upbringing, culture, beliefs, traumas, and sinful nature. Even the apostle Paul said […]
How to respond when you’ve hurt someone
It is inevitable that we hurt others intentionally or unintentionally. This is part of our fallen humanity. Life is not perfect, and neither are we. I have been in different situations where I have commented or acted in a way that has offended someone. It is hard to hear when someone approaches you with, “when […]
How to respond when you’ve been hurt
Last week, I wrote about church hurts, why they cause so much pain and how to correct our understanding of church. I promised to write about steps for forgiveness, but this post morphed into something else and it’s absolutely worth the read! When someone has wronged us, it is not our first instinct to think […]
