If you are like me, you've had someone say something like "I'm going to mess this up" before they start trying to say your name. Many people struggle to call our African traditional names. It can be annoying especially when they don't even try or when they ask you if you have a nick name. It's not enough that you've had to adjust every other aspect…
The sadness of 2020 hit a little harder when I heard that Chadwick Boseman (Wakanda’s King T’Challa) died yesterday from cancer. 2020 has been a hard year, coronavirus pandemic, lives lost from illness and racial injustice, locust swamps, fires, floods, explosions, people lost (Kobe Bryant, Ravi Zacharias, John Lewis, and now Chadwick Boseman). All these in addition to our own personal life struggles. Just one of…
To continue the Singleness and Marriage Series, I promised to write on God’s perspective.To God, being single or being married with or without children is a good thing. No one is above the other, we are all on equal status before God. If you are married, good for you. If you are single, good for you too. If you have children, good for you. If you…
African marriages! Have you felt that sense of pride when you overhear your parents talking about you and your new spouse? No wait, it’s actually when they talk about you giving them grandchildren. In their eyes, that’s when you have arrived. You can do whatever else you want with your life after that because you have gotten married and you have had kids. This sentiment comes…
Have you noticed that some African parents don’t really consider you a grown up until you are married? The scenario goes something like this:Relative (the one I referred to here): I haven’t seen the children in a long time. What is so-and-so studying again?You: She graduated over 7 years ago, she’s working nowRelative: Oh! What about ehm… the other one… (trying to remember his name)?You: My…
How did I do a whole relationship series without talking about being single and being married? Sorry oh! But get ready for it because for the next few weeks, I’ll be doing another series on singleness and marriage.If you are African, you’ve heard it one way or another either about yourself or about a sister, brother, cousin, someone who is single… Every married relative (and by…
Rest! Oh rest where are you? So simple yet so difficult to find It says God finished his work in 6 days and found you on the 7th God called the 7th day holy because He found you (Genesis 2:1-3) Why are you so hard to find in the 21st century? Netflix, Hulu, Intagram, Facebook, TikTok, YouTube, Whatsapp… All call on me pretending to be you…
We have been living in a pandemic for the past 4 months, which means we’ve been socially distancing, living in an unusual way from how we normally do as human beings. And for what seems like the first time in U.S. history, people of ALL races have been forced to examine their perceptions on race and deconstruct their racial prejudices. As tragic as the last 4…
I have to interrupt the Relationship Series again for this post because it’s important we Africans living in America talk about this.The experience of being an African living in America is different from being African American. For many black immigrants especially those who recently migrated to the U.S., it can be slightly difficult to relate to the cause of Black Lives Matter. You might view yourself…
I took a break from the Relationship Series last week and created this Racism healing tool kit so please use it and share it! I just want to add that even though the nation is finally openly acknowledging racism and prejudice as an issue, let this indignation not just be a trend. Let’s truly do our work to change personally, how we relate to others, how…