Have you ever wondered why we use the term “godmother?” And what exactly does the role entail? Has someone ever pulled a godparent aside and said, “Ok as a godparent, this is what the role demands from you?” If they did that for you, that’s great. I just never hear anyone doing it. Instead, there seems to be an assumption that when a close friend is…
THE WAIT IS OVER! Not Far From the Truth is available now. Click here to see where you can get a copy! If you have been a reader of this blog, this book is for you. Here is what you will find on the back of the book:What matters most is not if we encounter problems, rather it is how we cope with them. This book…
Happy Holidays!!! It's hard to believe this is the last month of 2023. December is here and the holiday season is upon us.While the holidays are festive, they can also be challenging for some people. Many of us can be glad to take time off from work, travel, and reunite with family and friends. But, the season can bring up reminders of loved ones you've have…
MY BOOK IS COMING SOON!!! And I’m excited for you to read it. But first, because you’ve been reading my blog, I’ll give you an inside scoop. Here is a little about the book: 1) What is the book called? Drum roll please... NOT FAR FROM THE TRUTH 2) What is the book about? Not Far From The Truth is a fictional book of 10 short…
Sometimes I wake up on Saturday mornings and I say this prayer borrowed from a dear friend’s best friend “Lord, order my day today” because my schedule is free to be rearranged. I wasn’t exactly planning to write today, but my plans this morning got moved to the afternoon, so here I am, writing. If you are a deep-thinking writer, you know it takes a lot…
We live in a time where there is so much talk about self-love and self-care. Both good things if we do them right. But before we get to either of those, we need self-knowledge. In other words, we need information regarding our tendencies, personality traits, emotional states, and patterns of behavior. Do you know that we can’t truly be known by others when we don’t know ourselves?…
Have you ever wondered how paradoxical it can feel to plan for the future yet live in the present? Two weeks ago, I wrote about How to think long-term in an instant gratification world. But it can be tempting to begin worrying about your long-term goals. That's why some people don't set long-term goals. It's difficult to live in the tension of the present with hopes…
Selfies, text messages, live streaming, Netflix, instant coffee, microwavable dinners, these are just a few of the things we can get “right now” at the tip of our fingers. We don’t have to wait. I remember when I was a child growing up in Cameroon, there were a few series on television that the women and children enjoyed watching. We had to wait for 8pm on…
This is the story: Susan (let’s call her that) has been complaining about not wanting to go to this event, but not only that, she has been tasked with making the fried plantains for the event. But she doesn’t want to do any of it. What’s the event? It’s a party that some fellow members from her cultural group host every quarter of the year. They’ve…
My people, it’s been a while since I ranted about something random like how people struggle with our African names or how our African relatives won't let us be single. Well, it’s time! Time for another rant about adulting.Various cultures used to have markers and ceremonies to signify emerging adulthood. But with globalization, many of those things have been lost. In the U.S., you become independent…