Running out of conversation topics while quarantining? Try Storytelling

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Do you remember the stories your parents told you when you were a child? I remember the times in Cameroon when the lights went out and we had to entertain ourselves. Sometimes we told African folk tales. I’m sad that I can’t remember the details of many of them, they are vague memories.

African storytelling is something cultural that was passed on from generation to generation. You had a leader or in West Africa, a griot, who will use stories to entertain the people while passing down life lessons and cultural values. Storytelling in this manner was common in other cultures as can be seen throughout the Bible. 

In most places today, we have a different means through which stories are told, by television. We get to watch it. While this is entertaining and easy to just press play. There seems to be something that is lost, using your imagination. When stories are told, you come up with the pictures in your mind, you get to play around with your own creativity. That imagination is what leads to innovation and “aha” moments when you get to explore what you can fabricate in your mind. Reading a good book has a similar effect on us. But reading a book by yourself is a different experience from telling a story in a community. That’s what made story telling in African communities so essential. It brought people together to sit still and listen. Each person walked away with different ideas sparked inside of them. Some may have been so angered by one of the characters in the story. Some may have thought about something they wanted to create. Some may have envisioned wanting to be a storyteller themselves because they enjoyed the griot’s story-telling abilities. Others might have even thought about something they needed to change in their character. And some may have looked forward to the next day for another story.

Well, it’s 2020. Storytelling in this manner is slowly disappearing. But we are all at home. Some with spouses, families, roommates, siblings, living alone. Wherever you are, can you incorporate some story times in your conversations? When you sit together with your spouse or your family or when you talk to friends virtually, ask them questions that will get them telling you stories. Better yet, offer to tell your stories to others. As the listener, read this post I wrote on how to listen well to stories.

Here are a few questions to help with your story topics:

  1. What is a popular (or your favorite) story you were told as a child?
  2. What are some memorable stories from your childhood?
  3. How did your parents meet? How about your grandparents?
  4. What story taught you a life-lesson you always remember?
  5. Whose story inspires you the most and why?
  6. What is a memorable experience you have had with the person to whom you are talking?

Here is some inspiration from one of my favorite storytellers of our time.

Dr. Ajab Amin

Dr. Ajabeyang Amin is a Cameroonian American Christian Psychologist who writes on mental health, culture, and faith, providing resources for mental and emotional issues. She holds a PsyD in Counseling Psychology from Northwest University and an MPH from University of Michigan. Learn more about her on the "My Story" tab OR contact her for counseling at www.ajabtherapy.com

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